Overcoming Self-Imposter Syndrome and Reclaiming Your Confidence

By Sophie Vonner, MA, NCC, LPC-A

Have you ever accomplished something significant but still felt like a fraud? Do you struggle to accept praise, convinced that others overestimate your abilities? If so, you may be experiencing self-imposter syndrome: the persistent belief that you are not truly as capable, intelligent, or deserving as others perceive you to be. Despite your hard work, achievements, and talents, you might feel like you’re one misstep away from being "exposed" as inadequate.

Imposter syndrome affects people from all backgrounds, even those who appear highly successful. It can show up in your career, relationships, education, or personal growth, making you question whether you truly belong. The irony is that imposter syndrome tends to affect high achievers the people who have worked hard to get where they are but still struggle with self-doubt.

One of the first steps in overcoming imposter syndrome is recognizing that your thoughts are not facts. Just because you feel like you don’t belong doesn’t mean it’s true. Our minds have a way of distorting reality, especially when fear and self-doubt take over. Challenge those thoughts by asking yourself, What evidence do I have that I am not qualified? More often than not, you will realize that your fears are based on assumptions rather than reality.

Another powerful way to combat imposter syndrome is by owning your achievements. Many people attribute their success to luck, external circumstances, or the help of others, rather than acknowledging their own hard work and talent. While support systems are valuable, you got where you are because of your effort, your skills, and your dedication. Instead of downplaying your successes, practice saying, I worked hard for this. I earned this. I deserve this.

Comparing yourself to others can also fuel imposter syndrome. In the age of social media, it’s easy to feel like everyone else is thriving while you’re just trying to keep up. Remember, people often showcase their highlight reels, not their struggles, failures, or insecurities. Your journey is your own, and the only person you need to compete with is the person you were yesterday.

Perfectionism is another common trap of imposter syndrome. Many people believe that unless they do something perfectly, they are not truly competent. This unrealistic expectation creates a cycle of anxiety and self-criticism, making it nearly impossible to feel satisfied with your work. The truth is, perfection is an illusion. Instead of aiming for flawlessness, strive for growth and progress. Remind yourself that making mistakes does not mean you are a fraud; it means you are learning.

It’s also important to embrace the discomfort of success. Sometimes, imposter syndrome arises because stepping into new opportunities feels unfamiliar and intimidating. Discomfort does not mean you are unqualified, it means you are growing. If you were never challenged, you would never improve. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

Surrounding yourself with supportive people can also make a huge difference. Talk to mentors, friends, or a therapist about your feelings. Chances are, they have experienced imposter syndrome too. Opening up about your struggles can help normalize these feelings and remind you that you are not alone.

Ultimately, overcoming imposter syndrome is about rewriting the story you tell yourself. Instead of focusing on self-doubt, shift your perspective to self-belief. Instead of questioning your worth, affirm it. Instead of waiting for validation from others, recognize your own value. You are not an imposter; you are capable, deserving, and more than enough.

If imposter syndrome is holding you back, therapy can help you develop strategies to challenge these negative beliefs and step into your confidence. You don’t have to navigate this alone, I’m here to support you.